April 15, 2009

On TV recently (April, 2009), Robert Gordon a Trauma Psychologist, said about the fire victims that those who hold on to blaming others and do not move on have more trouble overcoming their grief than those who move on (or words to that affect).

This got me to thinking about life in general. I know that I have blamed others for certain things that have happened in my life and regarding those facts, I didn’t move on, or gain the success that I had desired as a consequence to attributing the blame to someone else. Blame is easy. ‘It wasn’t my fault, so and so didn’t…’ When you blame someone else, you are off the hook. I mean, because the blame has been attributed to someone else or something else, ‘I’ or you can feel good about yourself because, after all, ‘It wasn’t my fault.’

You know what though! Success is limited. In fact, success can be very elusive since ‘It wasn’t my fault that I didn’t make it. Nobody told me.’  When you play the blame game, you become a master of excuse making. And, it’s never your fault. it is always someone else who contributes to your lack of success.

Ah! The art of blaming is alive and well. I suppose, over a long period of time I might become depressed, or procrastinate more, but? I mean, ‘It’s not my fault that I feel this way. I can’t help putting things off because others don’t…’  You fill in the rest.

Do you know where blame is alive and well? In the classroom. ‘My teachers are stupid,’  ‘my math teacher can’t teach,’  ‘The teachers don’t listen to me,’  ‘I wasn’t told to hand my work in,’ and so it goes on. With many students, they are never at fault. Failure is defined as being caused by the teachers, ‘why else would a good kid like me fail?’  Again, blaming the teacher, or others in the class is easy, so, failing comes easily.

Isn’t it time to get serious about the blame game? Stop playing! You’ll get know where while you see others as being the cause for your inabilities.